I have just came back from a trip to Sungai Petani, Kedah attending a close friend's wedding. They say there is always a first time for everything, and so let me list down a few things i did/ experienced for the first time during the weekend sojorn:
- It was my 1st time using MAS local flight from KLIA to Alor Setar. My first local travel par avion was on AirAsia KL LCCT-Langkawi in 2006
- I witnessed for the very first time three nikah ceremonies held at one session in a local masjid in Sungai Petani. The kadhi took turn to conduct the nikah for 3 couples and my friend was the last one to be wedded.
- I did my first bridesmaid job to a friend. The first one i did was during my 3rd sister's wedding at the inlaw greeting ceremony (majlis menyambut menantu) at her husband's place.
- I bumped into that angkasawan negara, SMS and he was NOT ALL THAT. I was never really one of his hoard of admirers across the nation but I admired his guts on accepting the challenges and national aspiration to see a Malaysian son making his debut trip to the International Space Station on Soyuz space shuttle from Baikonur Cosmodrome, Kazakhstan. Although he has the good boyish looks, he was far from a manly man....I could go on and on dissing about this fella yang a'la macam bagus as if the whole nation must idolize him for the rest of his life. I used to minat2 actors, singers and all that when i was much2 younger. These days, I no longer felt THAT urge to really meet just any celebrity, but I dont mind seeing them and communicating with them, and I would most probably select who I feel like talking to. And this SMS, dah la dalam TV cakap hafal script which was SO BLOODY boring, he managed to keep his oh-i-am-so-important look no matter how hard he tried to wear a humility face. Or maybe he only saves it during majlis dgn budak2 sekolah, universities and during meetings with VVVIPs, VVIPs and VIPs...
- The day before my outward journey to Sungai Petani (i.e. Thursday), I saw Ustaz Farid Ravi at KLIA . Now, he is one man I could feel the charismatic aura. Standing much taller than SMS and I personally think he is one goodlooking indian muslim man, I found myself humbled at his presence. Had i not busy sending my parents to the UK to attend my second brother's graduation in Dublin, I would go and greet that man myself.
- I asked one MAS pilot on my way to the KLIA arrival hall on who's responsible for the flight mechanical checking prior to taking off as well as passenger on-board. He told me that both the pilot and the aeronautics engineers would do a 20-minute routine check-up on the external aeroplane body to ensure that there is no faulty on the body as well as the engines. The reason to my curiosity was that while waiting to board the plane, it only took like 20 minutes between passengers getting off and those who are boarding in. It felt like a coach trip for me as I began to wonder about the (mechanical) safety aspect of the flight. As i listened to the pilot's very brief explanation, it amazed me knowing that by using all those special illumination based equipment (infra red, gamma-ray,that sort) and some other gadgets, they could save plenty of time. Our short conversation ended as soon as i saw SMS walking ahead of me on the passenger conveyor belt.
- I left my car parked at the airport roofed parking lot for more than 24 hours for the first time ever. The day before the journey, and knowing that it was a 2-day-1-night journey, I was estimating which one would be more economical: to book a KLIA Limo return journey which would cost me around RM110 or to leave my car at the parking lot where the first 24 hour charge is Rm 43.00 followed by RM3.5o for the 1st hour, and reduced to Rm2.00 or so the following hour. After a quick mental calculation, I decided that for this particular journey, I chose to park the car at the airport itself. The next day, upon my arrival, i went to pay my parking charges at the slot machine and I was right on the money-saving part as I only had to pay RM66.00.
I will add the wedding pictures soon.
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Here are a list of excerpts of the comments on
Malaysian Men being selfish in bed:
Typhoon Sue:
diaorg (Durex) interview saper selama nih? how could they use the word "so-and-so percentage of Malaysians" when so few of us actually take part in the surveys? I know for a fact i'm not accounted for in the 25%,.. errr... 75%... , err... whatever...
Ruby Ahmad:
I agree with Typhoon Sue...he he. I pun belum pernah kena interview...aper daa? LOL!
Ms Istanbul:Well said Manal. But u know this stats, since it covers just above 1k of the population, we wouldnt know whether it is exactly representative. Well, unless they interviewed the urbanites and if they clearly are not satisfied,surely something must be done by the men.
But I pun tak pernah kena interview. Could be more biased. *LOL* We women love to compare what. As I mentioned to U.Lee some time ago, men and women are like wine. The older they get, the finer they become (and hence it applies to my taste of men). *winks*
Uncle Lee:
However, I do agree the fact that work, children, financial worries, in-laws or out-laws next room can be a put off....and this applies to Hong Kong where most of the population stay in two room apartments or stay with parents.
Also applies to Japan, Tokyo where homes are expensive and whole families live together. I have good friends, of both species who keeps me informed, ha ha.
From my point of view and strictly my personal opinion and experiences...I will add or point to some of the many reasons why sexual fulfillment is or not often achieved....
Apart from what I mentioned above,....
Not in sequence:
1/ self hygiene can contribute to a certain extent to bedroom failures. Applicable both species.
2/Unless its a relationship in beginning stages, its all moonlight and roses, but after one kid, things go on cruise control.
3/ There is no real bed room chats, I mean real intimate chats between him and her. HE must initiate it.
4/ Where sex is concerned, most couples, married or otherwise tend to have fun and in less than 15 minutes, game over, with or without fireworks with one partner.
5/ Before marriage, both parties are at their best. 4 months into a relationship, both parties are relaxed in dressing, and things slow down. This applies very strongly when after marriage, first kid arrives.
6/ Wife or husband tired from work or kids, and do 'it' as a kind of duty.
I can go one with more, but will potong to one of THE MAIN contributions of sexual failure to a man, as well to a woman. In this matter, I first blame the man, and then the woman.
To me personally, it is a sin to have everything over and done with in less than 20 minutes!
Every man, every woman at some time or other will have or have sexual fantasies. Either with neighbours wife, daughter or Salma Hayek. She? With Ken Watanabe or Sean Connery or Daniel Craig, new 007.
I have not met or know a woman who has not had sexual fantasies, at one time or another or daily.
But one of THE BIGGEST sexual failure contributor is, bedroom intimate chats.
Most men, believe it or not are shy. 85% of my male friend are (according to their wives).
And most women CAN be conservative especially if strong mother influence, she who lives in the past before there were footsteps on the moon.
This is where the man MUST TAKE the initiative.
Seduction techniques must come into play here.
Teasing before, light touches, compliments to her to begin with.
Being adventurous.
AND! Once she is in the mood, never ever slam bang, thank you ma'am should be executed.
I believe that applies to Hollywood movies only.
Tease and enquire, ask, find out what she likes, enjoys most? Quite a lot of women will be too shy to expose herself to saying what SHE REALLY LIKES OR ENJOYS. Thus..HE should first tell her by complimenting her first, that he loves her very much and her beauty makes HIM want to do things to her. That only by engaging in certain activities he WILL enjoy her beauty.
Encourage, motivate, tittilate her till she confesses or confides.
However, there are women who are very conservative will not, dare not, do not want to be adventurous, thus the man has to apply some Ninjalogy here, ha ha.
Sex is just not a slam bang, thank you ma'am exercise....it should involve A LOT OF foreplay, and I mean the kind of foreplay that leaves a woman gasping till she puts up a white flag...
And by that knowing the fact a man is different to a woman, where she is capable of having multiple orgasms, HE a one time only....thus, he MUST ensure she achieves hers, and not once but several times if he knows she is a multiple person.
Not all women are multiples...a lot are singles, *wink*. Somehow I find Libra persons are more often than not, *wink*.
And, the only way HE CAN make her achieve the above is by being VERY adventurous, treating the final act of sex as THE gran finale...but the first hour or so as 'coming attraction' like in movies showing what is coming next.
There are many ways of making a woman achieve VERY EXPLOSIVE orgasms, leaving her breathless and even semi conscious.
A true lover, the man I mean must take the fact that if she does not cry out for the US Marines or imitate the mating call of a Canadian Timber wolf, he has failed.
Get a woman to achieve an explosive orgasm where the earth stops moving, birds start to sing, the bed does a rock and roll and maybe the neighbours wondering who getting choked, and if he is a bachelor, his reputation MIGHT spread, if a married man. he sure going to get those sly, sexy looks from the wife next morning, plus a good, hefty breakfast too.
To me, it all boils down to foreplay and being VERY ADVENTUROUS, a real Indiana Jones or a 007 in bed. And to take a woman's explosive cry when she arrives at Nirvana as the ultimate gold medal in sex.
Where I am concerned, my young days I mean, I start the teasing on the 3rd date. Never on 1st date, she'll think I only want her for sex. (sure I do, but I never rush things. A gentleman never does.)
The moment an opportunity arises, I will tell her teasingly that her beauty, her figure makes me have ALL KINDS of fantasies.
I will ensure what I say to her will gurantee a respond with a flirtatios hand brush on her hair, a cheeky or sexy look and her response, "tell me".
And that as incik Sherlock said once, "elementary, my dear Watson".
Sweet jasmine:
wow...manal...what a hot topic here....but i guess I had not much to add here....with all the advise given by the 'love doctor'lee here....on the making of a true lover.......
So to all husbands, lovers, boyfriends....get some sex education
Madam Curi:wow.......hot this is hot. I wonder who are the people being interviewed. No one ever interviews me.
KC:
since when married couples have orgasm...hahahahaha!
The Pisces Man:
You know Durex's survey always tend to create some controversy over their findings.
Anywya, they have a factory at my hometown. I once answered and submitted their questionnaire, with an expectation that my contribution would appreciated by them giving me a free gift. But the gift never arrived.
So, if they can't fulfill a simple promise to a customer, can we rely on them on such small-scale surveys? Hehheee..
Hmmmm..... orgasm...orgasm.. hard to say, hard to get, sometimes easy to get but most of the times, too tired or hard to find the time to get one! Ahak ahakkk... (not saying this represents me ok ;ppp)
Sir Cipan:
I found that one of the best foreplay scenario is to start on your woman when she's yakking away happily on the phone ...
And the reason why some couples fail to hit the moon is because they're rushing/anxious to get there.
Rule No 1 to Good Sex - relax
Rule No 2 - be playful
Rule No 3 - use your imagination.
Mel Ija:
I LOVE the topic. Even before you brought it up, I read it in the paper already. Kind a sad isn't it? That it just had to be applied to the Eastern people.
Now orgasm.. hhmm.. I tend to agree to what your friend U.Lee seems to say. To me, Asian men just wants to get it over and done very quickly. It's ok if their partners do not achieve orgasm, but they MUST achieve orgasms. To me, not fair lah kan. You have to make your partner happy too. It can't be one-sided. I have a friend (married for abour 5 months now), and she has NEVER achieved orgasm. And she really wants to know how it feels. Kesian dia. To her, sex is just about pleasing the men, in this case, her husband. When she does it, she can't wait for the thing to end. She sometimes count the minutes. To her, that thing is especially designed for the men. I pity her for feeling that way. And she just got married, some more. And NO kids. Pity kan..
Zewt:
think malaysian men are too busy working... till late at night... where got power to go all the way?
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